The nesting model – an alternative after divorce?

When a former couple divorces, it means a complete change in their living situation, especially for their children. Often, a move is involved. The so-called "nesting model" avoids this, allowing the children to remain in the home they previously shared. The parents alternate living there every one or two weeks and otherwise live in their own separate apartments.

While less common than the alternating or permanent residence models, the nesting model (also known as bird nesting) is becoming increasingly attractive and is being considered as an interesting alternative. The individual situation – especially the financial one – is the deciding factor. A local professional real estate agent can advise you on whether this option is suitable for you.

What can I imagine the nest model to be?

Despite their parents' separation, children can remain in their familiar home environment. This not only reduces the impact of moving and the disruption of their familiar surroundings, but also helps them cope better with the family's dissolution. Children who remain in the "nest" are said to develop qualities like tolerance and resilience more effectively than other children of separated parents. For them, practically nothing changes, except that their primary parent changes regularly.

What's good for the children isn't always easy for the parents

The "nesting" model does end a relationship, but without a true conclusion. While the couple is separated, they still have to make joint decisions regarding the property. This can quickly lead to arguments, especially when it comes to financial matters. Clear agreements are absolutely essential. Who pays for utilities, new furnishings, or repairs?

What's more, both need their own place. Besides managing two households and caring for the children, they also have to pay rent or a mortgage on the new home. If there's still a mortgage to pay off on the old property, things get even more complicated.

Keep it or sell it – what to do?

Even though the "nesting" model may seem like an attractive and socially responsible solution, the house or apartment often cannot be financed any longer. Experts recommend seeking advice from a real estate professional when reorienting your life after a divorce and finding a solution for shared property. A reputable real estate agent, with their extensive experience in this field, is well-versed in the specifics and can understand your situation. Whether you're considering selling or keeping the property, living in it yourself or renting it out, whether it's a "nesting," "shared," or "remaining" arrangement – ​​your agent will advise you on all the options and work with you to find the right solution.

Are you unsure what to do with your property after your divorce? Contact us! We'd be happy to advise you.

Notes

For the sake of readability, this text uses the generic masculine form. Female and other gender identities are explicitly included where relevant to the statement.

Legal notice: This article does not constitute tax or legal advice for any specific case. Please consult a lawyer and/or tax advisor to clarify the facts of your individual situation.

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